by Kristina Peterson
My husband was driving us home. The tires rolling down the icy road, so quiet you could hear a pin drop. My thoughts were gnawing at me when I finally said, “I don’t think I love you anymore”
According to The Huffington Post the divorce rate in Christian America today is about 50%.
Those words had visited me for years. Knocking and waiting for me to answer. I didn’t pay attention because behind the closed door our lives were filled with home school, moving, babies and the usual difficulties any marriage experiences.
1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Those words were spoken without a resolution and life continued without change. Until the light in the room had brightened the words from 1 Corinthians 13:4 and it became clear. Love . . . IT IS NOT SELF-SEEKING.
“I”, “me”, “mine” these words are the ones that had been dancing around in my world. For my husband, there was an empty dance floor. Love sat patiently in the corner.
Be gentle and ready to forgive: never hold grudges, remember the Lord forgave you, you must forgive others.
Stop and read 1 Corinthians 13:4 and you may find that you can see yourself doing the opposite of what Love is but how can “love” stay patiently when it is not being given a welcoming hand to hold?
How did I fall in love again? I embraced LOVE with everything God gave me. It was not long until we were together, dancing on the dance floor. That moment that I thought of him, my husband, LOVE surrounded us and we were happy. When I say “I thought of him” what I mean is that I took action. If he had to work late I appreciated how hard he works for his family and take time to make sure when he gets home dinner is made, the house is picked up, I am off the phone and I am mindful of him.
What Can You Do
Don’t be self-seeking and trust in God. Whenever your mind starts churning with “Why didn’t he . . .”, “He should have . . .” STOP! Those are not the words of love, and God is LOVE. Pray every day and read God’s answers.
- Make a list of all the good things your husband does. You might need to start with obvious things like “he works hard to take care of our family,” “he told me when he hears the birds he thinks of me.” It could be as great as “he put the toilet seat down when I asked.”
- Every once in a while let him know you love him with love emails or texts.
- Praise him. When he doubts himself, remind him of how wonderful you believe he is. And if he tells you how wonderful he is, agree and give him a loving kiss.
I cannot promise years of romantic dances but God has given me this masterful blessing of loving my husband to depths that I did not know existed. And this story is how it happened.
A Prayer for You
Thank you Lord for all the blessings You have given me. Help me Lord to do Your will in our marriage so that it may be healed. Forgive me Lord for not sharing Your love with my spouse. I want to love my spouse the way You love me. Help me to be a vessel of Your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control in _____’s life.
In His name we pray,
Kristina Peterson is a homeschooling mom born in Southern California and has raised her family from Alaska to Florida and states in between. She currently lives in Pennsylvania. She is passionate about vintage children’s books and her beautiful family — three sons and her husband whom she adores.